Parenting with Taqwa
The first of its kind 12-week guided course for parents wanting practical tools to understand and support a child experiencing same-sex desires through an Islamic, psychological and God-centred spiritual framework.
Are you trying to support your child, but afraid of getting it wrong?
From the outside, you may be trying to stay calm, supportive and grounded in your faith. But inside, you may be carrying questions you never expected to face as a parent.
You may be wondering what this means for your child’s faith, their future, marriage, family and relationship with Allah — while also questioning what you should say, what you shouldn’t say, and whether your response might bring them closer to you or push them further away.
For others, there is silence. You love your child deeply, but you are afraid that saying the wrong thing could compromise your Islamic values — or damage a relationship you desperately want to preserve.
How do you remain faithful to what you believe while becoming the parent your child feels safe turning to?
But what if your role isn’t to control their journey?
‘Our Lord, grant us from our spouses and our offspring comfort to our eyes, and make us leaders for the God-conscious.’ 25:74
What if supporting your child does not mean having all the answers, changing what they feel, or guaranteeing the choices they will make?
What if it means learning to understand their experience, manage your own fears, communicate with wisdom, and remain a source of guidance as they navigate faith, sexuality and their relationship with Allah?
When fear gives way to understanding, the relationship begins to change. You can hold firmly to your Islamic values while becoming more compassionate, more thoughtful and more confident in how you respond. Instead of reacting from panic, shame or uncertainty, you can learn how to listen, guide, set appropriate boundaries and help your child develop their own relationship with Allah.
INTRODUCING
Parenting with Taqwa
A 12-week practical course for parents navigating same-sex desires within the family
Understanding your child
– understanding the difference between attraction, desire, identity, behaviour and choice
– exploring what your child may have been carrying before they ever spoke to you
-learning to listen without immediately interrogating, correcting or trying to find a cause
Guiding with Quranic principles
-maintaining an Islamic understanding of sexuality without using fear or shame as the primary tools of guidance
-understanding the Qur’anic model of tarbiyah, compassion, advice and moral responsibility
-learning when to speak, what to say and how to respond to difficult disclosures
Building the Relationship
– managing your own fear, grief, expectations and uncertainty
– maintaining trust, dignity and appropriate privacy
– learning how to remain a source of connection to family, faith and Allah, even when you disagree with choices your child may make
This isn’t a course about teaching you how to “fix” your child
It’s a course about becoming better equipped to understand them, guide them and walk alongside them without losing your faith or your relationship with them.
WHAT TO EXPECT
- GUIDED SESSIONS WITH ALI AND PEERS
- PRACTICAL TOOLS TO APPLY IN REAL LIFE
- TAKE HOME EXCERCISES FOR EACH SESSION
- PSYCHOEDUCATION GROUNDED IN QURANIC VALUES
- A CLEAR STEP APPROACH TOWARDS YOUR JOURNEY OF INNER STRENGTH
Inside the Course
1. When you first find out
Our initial impulse is to immediately fix our child. Emotions of fear, rage, catastrophising and shame take over. We learn how to establish an environment where truth can be spoken safely.
2. Attraction, Shahwa, Choice and Accountability
We distinguish between desires, intention, action and identity. Is the only goal to reach opposite sex attraction? What may have they been carrying all these years?
3. Examining our Nafs
While our children may be struggling with shahwa, what are we struggling with? Where do we have most ability to change our condition?
4. Hidden aspects of your child
Your child is more than their sexual desires. How do we see other aspects of our child or has everything else disappeared?
5. Ya Bunayya
Learning attachment before giving advice. Can I disagree and still love my child? Does acceptance mean agreement with every choice?
6. The power of listening
Our children have been carrying this longer than we have. Listening without wanting a fix or an origin theory demonstrates you are present with them.
7. Do I need to remind them each time?
If the teaching around sexual ethics becomes their entire Islam, then we have disassociated them from Allah. What does a comprehensive tarbiyah program look like?
8. Shame
The societal and cultural expectations we face as parents. Am I ashamed as a parent? Do we propagate the shame to our children? Can my child come to me after falling into sin?
9. Modesty
What does hayaa and privacy look like for you? Do I need to respect my child’s privacy?
10. Marriage
What is the Islamic understanding for marriage for these cases? Is marriage the answer? What if I found the perfect spouse for my child?
11. Handling Disagreements
Learning how to remain a source of connection to family, faith and Allah, even when you disagree with choices your child may make
12. Walking with them
What things am I responsible for and which do I have to let go? How do I manage my emotions while continuing to build the relationship with my child?
A note from Ali
I created this course after 5 years of sitting with parents every week in our Parents Support Circle, who were afraid they would be losing their children or whose children had actually lost contact with them. The course allows for difficult conversations to happen without the need to cancel the relationship.
Join the first ever cohort of this course!
FAQs
When does the course begin?
The first session starts at Monday 7th September 2026 at 9pm and lasts till 10.30pm (UK). Sessions are held weekly and the final twelfth session will be held on Monday 23rd November 2026.
What is the cost and duration of each session?
Sessions are 90 minutes long and cost £20 per session.
What happens in a session?
The sessions are designed to be feel personal, small and interactive. We will meet weekly where you can bring questions, reflections and struggles. Sometimes we might do exercises, journaling or guided reflection.
Depending on what the group needs, I can teach more spontaneously and share my personal experience. The sessions are not a lecture, but interactive to help you do your work and learn from others. Don’t worry if you couldn’t attend a session as long as you booked for that session, materials can be made available.
How do I enroll?
You need to enrol for each week separately on the Jane App, select Family Group Sessions and put in credit card details and fill in the client forms.
Can I just attend one session?
Yes, you can enrol for how many you like. Note there is a very short period for introductions.
What If I can’t attend a session I booked?
Our sessions are not recorded to maintain privacy compliance. However, we can give you the handouts and material.
How much notice do I need to cancel my booked session?
You must cancel with more than 24 hours left, cancellations less than this amount will be charged
What is your refund policy?
If for whatever emergency or other reason you cannot attend and did not cancel with more than 24 hours, the full charge is applied and there are no refunds.
How much time do I need to commit?
The sessions last 90 minutes and it may be take you 30 minutes to complete the handout material.
Will I have to share to the group?
We require videos to be on to help the group feel safe. However, its fine to just listen, reflect privately or engage quietly. There will never be an expectation to share personal details before you’re ready.
Will I have access to Ali?
Yes, the sessions are a space to ask questions, get guidance and integrate the work in a way that feels best. You can also submit questions in advance and these will be brought into sessions where relevant. While this isn’t 1:1 therapy, Ali will be present to respond to you.
Is this therapy or coaching?
No, this is not a replacement for individual coaching or therapy.
I’m already in therapy or coaching – is this useful?
Yes, many people benefit from group courses alongside 1:1 work. You are welcome to bring whatever comes up for you in these sessions to your therapist or coach.
I’m a coach or therapist – is this for me?
Yes, professionals can join this work. While concepts may be understood, its different to experience them in your own work. This isn’t professional training but is a space to look at your own thoughts, patterns and experience.
I don’t live in the UK – can I still attend?
Yes, the course has participants globally, it is priced in GBP (£).
I have more questions, can I speak with someone?
You are welcome to email contact@sayedalijaffery.com